My story 2004 to 2005

I was in class 11th during that time. Our final exams were about to begin within next few months. I was not so bad in studies. My faculty was commerce/management. My parents invested lots of money in my studies. One day I learn smoking and I feel good doing that. Days goes on and on and I started bunking my classes too. Slowly I became chain smoker. That is the beginning of my dark days. The life before that was very beautiful. I was a tution teacher from where I earned my pocket money. I was good in overall activities. Everything was perfect.

suddenly life took u turn. One day when I coming home from my campus with my friends I saw my angry mom with a stick in her hand waiting for me in front of our home. When I come near she started beating me in front of my friends. I kept quite. She kept on beating until we reach home. I asked the reason for doing so. She replied: from today onwards you are not going anywhere because you are running Outta my hands which I will never let happen. For about two months I was in my home. No friends no smoking no tuition and no school and obviously no money. I quit smoking for somedays. This all started when I was smoking behind my house when one of my friends mom watched me and she was the one who told my mom that I am running out of her hands and to control me or else she will lose me.

Few days later, our eldest sister came from India who she got married in 1998 to meet us as usual. She is strict. My mom told her to take me so, that I can become good person again. She didn’t refuse. I came in India with her. She asked me what I want to do? Study/job? I was not interested in studies anymore. I replied I want to do job. Within few days I started doing job. But, the owner didn’t pay for my job as according to the owner I have to learn for two three months before getting paid. I worked there for about one and half month. I feel bored because of no salary. I told my sister that I want to go my maternal home which is in Rajasthan and my parental home is also in Rajasthan. I went there for some months.

Oneday at evening when I was sitting behind a famous temple ‘Gogamedi’ I was thinking to go to the capital city of India which is New Delhi. But, the problem was that I didn’t have enough money and contacts of known relatives and friends as well. I heard many rumours which somehow was true that in Delhi children’s those who flew from their home gets trafficked easily. I was in fear. On the same night when I was having my dinner at my maternal restaurant some unknown old couple called me ‘son’ we are from Delhi. Tomorrow we are leaving to Delhi. Will you come along with us? I told yes. Coz, I was also thinking the same. They told me to get ready in the morning. Nothing came in my mind except I was thinking that God is helping me and it is ‘He the God’ who has sent those couple to help me.

Next day I get ready. I went to the place where they resided. My maternal Uncle wasn’t there. I told his workers that I am going and I went. I had only 50 bugs in my pocket. The couple asked me how much I had in with me. I told them that I had only rs 50. They told me to give them the money. I gave them what I had and it took couple of hours to reach Delhi via train.

Next day morning couple introduce me with two of their son and other family members and told me I am one among them and to not hesitate asking anything when I needed. They provided me a room on the top floor of their building. They also asked me weather I will do a job on a salary basis or free. I told them I will work for free. I worked there for four months. I enjoyed alot during that period. The interesting thing happened to me at that time is that when I was returning I had only 50 bugs left in my pocket. I was little bit worried. I was sitting on a bus and there a man arrived and offered me some help. I didn’t refuse. Once the bus stopped he took me to a Dhaba a type of open restaurant and he ordered to pack a parcel of food for me. I thanked him. He said it’s okay. He told me to go home from where I came and also helped me by providing some money. Finally I reached my home. Safe and healthy. That was the journey in my life which was epic, tragedy, fun, entertainment, etc.

I would like to advice youngsters those who think smoking, drinking, and sex is everything, please don’t make ur future dark. Life is indeed beyond that. Listen to ur elders. They always want us to show the right path and it’s us who always choose the wrong path and later we keep on blaming. Our life is what we plant. If we plant good seeds we bear good and sweet and tasty fruits from it.

hope you all are fine. Stay safe and healthy.

Human trafficking 2

facts vs. myths

1. Why Now?

Total isolation during the pandemic has made more people vulnerable to trafficking. Polaris Project, a U.S.-based anti-trafficking institute, found that roughly 3 out of 5 victims are recruited by an “intimate partner” or family member — which is obviously still possible during a lockdown. Joblessness, desperate financial straits and potential eviction create the perfect storm. “When we talk about trafficking in times of crisis, usually we’re thinking about a conflict situation or a natural disaster,” Samantha McCormack, a trafficking legal specialist, told Foreign Policy. But experts were not prepared for a pandemic.

2. Long Trek

Thousands of Central Americans, including Salvadorans, were walking toward the U.S.-Mexico border in March, fleeing violence, including sex trafficking. They hoped to start a new life in the U.S., buoyed by the promise of a new president in the White House. Back in El Salvador, lawmakers finally moved to act on trafficking — increasing law enforcement efforts and prosecuting more cases than in the previous year. The Northern Triangle of Guatemala, Honduras and El Salvador is one of the worst regions in Central America for trafficking, where experts say COVID-19 is amplifying existing holes in laws designed to combat it. President Joe Biden’s administration just launched a new task force to combat human trafficking from the region.

3. Fighting Falsehoods

Republicans and former President Donald Trump constantly warned that such “caravans” from Latin America were a threat to the U.S. and needed to be stopped. But oddly enough, fighting human trafficking has become somewhat of a cause célèbre among those on the right, with Fox News pundits regularly raising the alarm about its dangers. Followers of the baseless QAnon conspiracy theory are also obsessing over the topic. QAnon claims that elite Democrats are trafficking children, and sometimes recruit new followers though the misleading hashtag #SaveTheChildren. Remember Pizzagate? Experts fear such fake news detracts from how trafficking really happens.

4. The Biggest Case

While QAnon folks spuriously believe the Dems are behind the trafficking of minors, one of the biggest human trafficking cases in recent times involved not a street pimp or Russian gang but a member of the elite: wealthy financier Jeffrey Epstein. Even a British royal, Prince Andrew, has had his name tarnished due to his friendship with Epstein, who committed suicide while awaiting trial in 2019. Epstein’s associate Ghislaine Maxwell is also facing charges — she has pleaded not guilty — that she procured teenage girls for Epstein and his friends to sexually abuse.

The way to detox your useless and unnecessary thoughts: Concentration on the Breath A very simple way of meditating is concentrating on your breath. The breath is like a bridge between your body and mind. When you concentrate on your breath for a while, your body becomes relaxed and your mind becomes peaceful. Sit in a comfortable position with your back straight. Place your hands in your lap with the left hand on the bottom. Keep your eyes half-closed or closed. Concentrate on the tip of your nose. Notice your breath going in and out.

THE THREE UNIVERSAL TRUTHS

One day, the Buddha sat down in the shade of a tree and noticed how beautiful the countryside was. Flowers were blooming and trees were putting on bright new leaves, but among all this beauty, he saw much unhappiness. A farmer beat his ox in the field. A bird pecked at an earthworm, and then an eagle swooped down on the bird. Deeply troubled, he asked, “Why does the farmer beat his ox? Why must one creature eat another to live?”

During his enlightenment, the Buddha found the answer to these questions. He discovered three great truths. He explained these truths in a simple way so that everyone could understand them.

1. Nothing is lost in the universe

The first truth is that nothing is lost in the universe. Matter turns into energy, energy turns into matter. A dead leaf turns into soil. A seed sprouts and becomes a new plant. Old solar systems disintegrate and turn into cosmic rays. We are born of our parents, our children are born of us.

We are the same as plants, as trees, as other people, as the rain that falls. We consist of that which is around us, we are the same as everything. If we destroy something around us, we destroy ourselves. If we cheat another, we cheat ourselves. Understanding this truth, the Buddha and his disciples never killed any animal.

2. Everything Changes

The second universal truth of the Buddha is that everything is continuously changing. Life is like a river flowing on and on, ever-changing. Sometimes it flows slowly and sometimes swiftly. It is smooth and gentle in some places, but later on snags and rocks crop up out of nowhere. As soon as we think we are safe, something unexpected happens.

Once dinosaurs, mammoths, and saber-toothed tigers roamed this earth. They all died out, yet this was not the end of life. Other life forms like smaller mammals appeared, and eventually humans, too. Now we can even see the Earth from space and understand the changes that have taken place on this planet. Our ideas about life also change. People once believed that the world was flat, but now we know that it is round.

3. Law of Cause and Effect

The third universal truth explained by the Buddha is that there is continuous changes due to the law of cause and effect. This is the same law of cause and effect found in every modern science textbook. In this way, science and Buddhism are alike.

The law of cause and effect is known as karma. Nothing ever happens to us unless we deserves it. We receive exactly what we earn, whether it is good or bad. We are the way we are now due to the things we have done in the past. Our thoughts and actions determine the kind of life we can have. If we do good things, in the future good things will happen to us. If we do bad things, in the future bad things will happen to us. Every moment we create new karma by what we say, do, and think. If we understand this, we do not need to fear karma. It becomes our friend. It teaches us to create a bright future.
The Buddha said,

“The kind of seed sown
 will produce that kind of fruit.
 Those who do good will reap good results.
 Those who do evil will reap evil results.
 If you carefully plant a good seed,
 You will joyfully gather good fruit.”

Life is not a problem:

You ask: I don’t seem to have any real questions. That is a great insight! There are no real questions in existence. All questions are false, unreal non-essential, because life is not a problem to be solve. It’s a mystery to be lived. Only the fools goes on questioning and keeps on thinking that some answers will help them. No any answer is going to help you. Every answer will create new questions. Every answer has brought thousands of unnecessary questions. It has not been an answer, it has been a problem to every answer. It is good that you don’t find any real questions. Buddha is reported to have said that a meditator loses all his questions. When a moment comes when there are no real questions left and that is the moment when to attain the wisdom, not to answers, but to wisdom. Wisdom is not the answer to your questions, it is the unfolding of ur consciousness. Now that you have come to know something and you start experiencing life in its totality. It is not an answer, it is an experience goes on unfolding. It is not experience it more experiencing. It is a process not an event. I didn’t found any answers in this five thousand years of human history except increasing in foolishness which has created another big problems. The foolishness has become deeper and deeper ,and thicker and thicker. They bring questions and answers and the answer brings another thousands of question and it keeps on and on. It’s like a never ending infinite way and to end that stop questioning. Try to enjoy your life in its natural form.

Thankyou. Have a nice day. Stay safe and healthy.

How to Talk to Your TeenBringing up any difficult subjects with your teen can feel uncomfortable. And your teen isn’t likely to respond well to a lengthy lecture or too many direct questions. But having a conversation with your teen about difficult issues is not something you should shy away from.Even when it seems like they are not listening, you are the most influential person in your teen’s life. It is important to lay a strong foundation before the window of opportunity closes.A good way to strike up a conversation about drugs, sex, juuling, or other uncomfortable situations is to ask a question like, “Do you think this is a big issue at your school?”Listen to what your teen has to say. Try not to be judgmental, but make your expectations and opinions clear. It is important that your teen understands that you don’t condone certain behaviors and that they know the of breaking your rules.